3 Tips to Teach Your Child How to Read

By: ChildrenLearningReading.com 

Learning to read at a young age is important for the development of the child. It helps them develop a better understand of their surroundings, allows them to gather information from printed materials, and provides them with a wonderful source of entertainment when they read stories and rhymes. Children develop at different rates, and some children will develop reading skills quicker than other children; however, what’s important is that as the parent, you are keenly aware of your child’s maturity and reading level to provide them with appropriate books and activities to help them improve.

As parents, you are the most important teacher for your children. You will introduce your child to books and reading. Below we have some tips to help you teach your child to read.

Teach Your Child How to Read Tip #1

Teach your child alphabet letters and sounds at the same time. Studies have shown that children learn best when they are taught the letter names and letter sounds at the same time. In one study, 58 preschool children were randomly assigned to receive instructions in letter names and sounds, letter sound only, or numbers (control group). The results of this study are consistent with past research results in that it found children receiving letter name and sound instruction were most likely to learn the sounds of letters whose names included cues to their sounds. [1]

When teaching your child the letter sounds, have them slowly trace the letter, while saying the sound of the letter at the same time. For example, if you were teaching your child the letter “A”, you would say:

“The letter A makes the /A/ (ah) sound.”

Then have your child say the /A/ sound while tracing the letter with his or her index finger.

Teaching a Child How to Read Tip #2

When teaching your child to read, always emphasize with them that the proper reading order should be from left to right, and top to bottom. To adults, this may seem so basic that anyone should know it. However, our children are not born with the knowledge that printed text should be read from left to right and top to bottom, and this is why you’ll sometimes see children reading from right to left instead – because they were never explicitly taught to read from left to right. When teaching your child how to read, always emphasize this point with them.

Teach Your Child How to Read Tip #3

Teach final consonant blends first. Teaching words such “at” and “and” can lead your child directly to learning words that rhyme with these. For example, for “at”, you can have:

Lat
Pat
Mat
Cat
Sat
Bat
Spat
Chat

For “and”, you can have these rhyming words:

Sand
Band
Land
Hand
Stand
Bland
Brand
Grand
and so on…

You can start teaching blends once your child has learned the sounds of some consonants and short vowel sounds. You don’t need to wait until your child has mastered the sounds of all the letters before teaching blends.

Learning to read is a long process, but it doesn’t have to be a difficult process. Broken down into intuitive and logical steps, a child as young as two years old can learn to read, and older children can accomplish even more.

>> Click here to for a simple, step-by-step program that can help your child learn to read, and watch a video of a 2 year old child reading

Notes:

1. J Exp Child Psychol. 2010 Apr;105(4):324-44. Epub 2010 Jan 25.
Learning letter names and sounds: effects of instruction, letter type, and phonological processing skill.
Piasta SB, Wagner RK.
Preschool Language and Literacy Lab, The Ohio State University, Columbus, OH 43210, USA.


How to Recognise What Narcissistic Behavior Is

Narcissistic behaviors come from an excessively high self focus. Having high self-esteem is an essential element in living a successful and happy life, however there is a line that must not be crossed. Knowing what narcissistic behavior is will help you avoid stepping over it and going into the wrong side.

High self-esteem is a positive trait, one that exudes confidence and attracts people to you. But when you become obsessed with yourself, and begin putting your needs and interest above those of everybody else, you become a narcissist. Your behaviors focus on your needs with no regard for others. They have the opposite effect and can cause people seeing you in a negative light. You may get some short-term wins, but many people will be less supportive. This is contrary to the formula of a successful life.

There are many distinctions between high self-esteem and narcissism. While narcissists often (but not always) have a very high opinion of themselves, the link between this and narcissism is unfounded. It is not true that everyone with high self-esteem is a narcissist, or that being narcissistic comes only about having this trait.

Let’s look a little more closely at narcissism to see how it differs from healthy, high self-esteem so we can dispel any lingering myths.

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What is Narcissism?

First up, it is important to recognise that there is a difference between being narcissistic and having a narcissistic personality disorder. The latter is a mental health condition. In this article, we are referencing the general personality trait.

Narcissist behaviors result when you are excessively interested in, or admire yourself. This obsession may be your personality, physical appearance, or both. Some words used to describe narcissistic tendencies include self-obsession, conceit, and egotism. For most people with this attitude, their behavior reflects this. These include acting selfishly, having a lack of empathy towards others, being (or acting) entitled, and having a need for admiration from others.

To classify narcissism as a full personality disorder, the behaviors must be more extreme. In these instances, the behaviors interfere with the person’s ability to lead a healthy life and to have productive relationships with others.

Narcissism and Self-Esteem

A common misconception is that all narcissists have high self-esteem. Most times, the opposite is true. A lack of self-esteem can cause some to seek approval from others and become obsessed with themselves to make up for their lack of self-worth or confidence. Those with high self-esteem might not be narcissistic, because their high self worth is grounded in healthy, productive views of their abilities and value.

While people with high self-esteem often feel confident in their own abilities, narcissists take this a step further and feel superior to others for their talents. To feel superior, you are always comparing yourself to others. This can cause you to put down anyone who threatens your perceived status as being “the best” at something. Those with high self-esteem need not compare themselves, as they are confident in their own capabilities.

Being aware of who you are is one important part of maintaining this balance.

This distinction between self-esteem and narcissism is important. Most self-esteem stems from accomplishments we have achieved, skills we have mastered, and the values to which we adhere. The opposite is true of narcissism. It is based on fear. The fear of being seen as weak or of failing is a driving force. It creates an unhealthy focus on yourself and wanting others to see you as the best. Most narcissists are, at their core, insecure and feel inadequate, which is the opposite of having high self-esteem.

Those who are narcissists will often be envious or hostile toward rivals, while those with high self-esteem most often use compassion and cooperation with others. We can see them as two ends of a spectrum, ranging from dominance (narcissism) to equality (self-esteem).

Final Thoughts

Knowing what narcissistic behavior is allows you to see the difference between these two. This is key to understanding why having high self-esteem is essential and does not mean you will become a narcissist. Wanting to work on your self-esteem is a laudable goal. It should not be deterred by fears of becoming a conceitful monster.

By the way, remember that it’s never too late to take care of yourself, and then you can take care of others.


How to Have Successful Relationships

You may be killing it at work, but if you don’t have successful relationships, you’re missing out on another side of life. The people in your life, your partner, friends and family, as well as work colleagues are an integral part of the framework of a successful life.

In this post we give a few tips that can help build better relationships with others and give you a more secure, rounded life.

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We summarise them as being in four different categories:

  • The Desire to Build Successful Relationships;
  • Your Personal attitude;
  • Interactions With Others; and
  • The Scope of Your Circle of Friends and Family.

The Desire to Build Successful Relationships

As with most things in life – it all begins with desire. If you want to build successful relationships – it’s not that hard, it does take a little effort though. So the first thing is to be clear about what you want.

#1 – Set Relationship Goals

One thing that people who are successful in personal relationships do is set goals. For instance, they might consider the progression of a romantic relationship and consider whether it is going too quickly or too slowly. They might also try to look one year ahead and decide where they want to be, so they can steer the relationship in that direction.

#2 – Define What Success in Your Personal Life Means to You

Success in your personal life can mean different things to different people. Define what it means to you. Does it mean that you become closer and more open with your spouse? Once you define it, focus on achieving it.

#3 – Spend Time Reflecting on Your Personal Life

From time to time, reflect on your personal life. Consider whether you are approach personal relationships and goals correctly; and consider how you might improve your approach.

#4 – Commit Yourself to Improving Your Relationship with Your Spouse

Instead of seeing your spouse as a competitor, see him or her as a partner in life. Think about how you can work together to achieve better outcomes for both of you, rather than thinking about how you can get out of whatever task he or she wishes you to do.

#5 – Observe Successful Relationships and Emulate Them

If you and your spouse have friends who have successful friendships or romantic relationships, observe them and copy their approach. Emulate the things that work well in the relationships—and yours may improve, too.

Your Personal Attitude

Building successful relationships requires a positive attitude. People’s behaviours towards others reflect the way they are treated themselves. If you wish to have positive relationships, a positive attitude towards life and others will reap rewards.

#6 – Make an Effort to be Happy, No Matter What Challenges You Face

No matter what challenges you face at work, don’t bring them home with you. Make an effort to be happy at home; and to spread that happiness to your spouse and children.

#7 – Develop Self-Confidence

While a little self-doubt usually isn’t a bad thing, a lot of self-doubt can be highly destructive. It can prevent you from accomplishing many things; and it can prevent you from fully participating in relationships, as well as forming new relationships.

#8 – Spend Time Relaxing

From time to time, you should relax with your spouse and family. The successful know that hard work is important, but relaxation is equally important.

#9 – Attempt to Improve Your Mindset

Mindset is an important variable that we can all influence. No matter whether it comes to personal relationships or business transactions, improving our focus and our intensity can only have a positive effect.

#10 – Be Grateful to Your Spouse or Significant Other

From time to time, show your spouse the gratitude that he or she deserves. Don’t hold back on praise or use it as a bargaining chip. Instead, be open honest, and loving; and you will receive the same in return

#11 – Be a Good Listener in Relationships

In relationships, it is vital that you have someone who you can vent to and with whom you can be completely honest. Additionally, it is vital that you be that same person for your partner.

Interactions With Others

Aside from having a positive attitude, the way you manage your relationships will have a big bearing on their success. Just as a plant in the garden needs nutrients and water, successful relationships need constant nurturing and management of the inevitable bad periods which occur from time to time.

#12 – Reconcile with Family Members

If your personal life is riddled with conflicts, then you may want to take some time to step back and ask yourself what is going wrong. Consider whether you could simply be the bigger person and reconcile these conflicts with family members, rather than perpetuating them.

#13 – Never Go to Sleep without Resolving an Argument

If you’re in the middle of an argument, don’t just go to sleep. Instead, resolve it. Be the bigger person if you must, but don’t allow a fight to continue through the night and into the following day.

#14 – Dispose of Bad Habits in Your Personal Relationships

We all have bad habits in our personal relationships. Perhaps we don’t listen very well. Or perhaps we are very quick to judge. Don’t let these bad habits set the tone for every relationship you have. Instead, extinguish these habits and improve your relationships.

#15 – Be Open-Minded and Accepting of Your Significant Other’s Needs

Just as you have needs, your significant other also has needs. Try to be sensitive and thoughtful in responding to these needs, rather than bargaining with your partner for the best deal you can get.

#16 – Practice Patience with Your Spouse and Children

At the end of the day, the people who will stick with you forever are your spouse and children. Try to stay patient with them, to understand them, and do whatever you can for them.

#17 – Try to be Empathetic and Caring in Your Interactions with Family Members

Instead of judging family members and complaining to them, try to understand where they come from; and try to empathize with their situations. Try hard to make their situations in life better; and they will do the same for you.

The Scope of Your Relationships

It’s a bit more complicated than “the more the merrier” but there’s a fair element of truth in it. You don’t live in a single faceted world, and so your relationships cover a wide scope as well – family, work, hobbies and sports, friends and the like. The important people in your life accumulate over your life time, with varying degrees of importance and impact. To build a wider set of successful relationships, keep your close friends close, but don’t exclude the others.

#18 – Improve Your Existing Friendships

In addition to making new friends, you should also try to improve your existing friendships. Get closer with good friends; and find ways to grow your relationships with new friends.

#19 – Expand Your Horizons by Making New Friends

Making new friends can introduce you to thoughts that might never have occurred to you previously. The successful know that having a mix of different types of friends can broaden your horizons and improve the quality of your life.

#20 – Strive for Healthiness and Transparency in Your Relationships

No matter whether it is a romantic relationship or a friendship, strive for healthiness and transparency. Don’t hide information. Don’t do anything to intentionally hurt your friend or partner. And, most of all, try to be honest and forthcoming in all of your endeavours.

Summary of How to Have Successful Relationships

Success in life is more than money or power. The people you share your life with are an essential element of your success and happiness. To have successful relationships is to have a richer, more satisfying and fuller life. We hope that these tips help you to build on the solid foundations you already have. Friends and family count more than your most precious possessions.


The Connections Between Self Esteem and Relationships

The research on the connections between self esteem and relationships is quite extensive. Not only does your self esteem influence how you think about yourself, it also plays a role in your ability to receive and accept love from others. It influences how you treat others in your life, particularly romantic partners.

When you enter into a relationship with a low level of self esteem, you are more likely to become dissatisfied over time.  This means that your partner is also likely to become unhappier and the relationship will suffer.

Your self esteem is born from early life experiences and continues to develop over your life. If your early life was characterized by unhealthy relationships, then it is likely that you will have “inherited” a low level of self esteem. This may lead you to mistreat those around you (even if you don’t want to and don’t realize just how you do this). The impact of early abuse or neglect is not only limited to your own self esteem, but also on your thoughts about others and consequently, about loving relationships.

How we feel about ourselves influences how we interact with and connect with others – but how does this happen? As it turns out, it happens in many ways. Here are just a few of the significant connections between self esteem and a healthy relationship.

Self Esteem Influences Attachment

Your level of self esteem influences how you attach to others. For instance, low levels of self esteem (or confidence) typically creates a low level of trust in others. Depending on how and when these feelings originated, you may have either avoidance or anxiety issues that make it hard for you to connect with others.

At one end of this spectrum, this may cause you to distance yourself from others, ignore your partner, dismiss others’ feelings toward you, and even do things to hurt your partner. This stems from your belief that someone else could not possibly love you, so you should protect yourself from the inevitable hurt they will bestow upon you.

Alternatively, your low self esteem may make you extremely anxious about how others’ feel, causing you to be preoccupied with their behaviors. As a result you may become clingy or overly needy towards others because you are sure they will leave you at any moment.

Self Esteem Guides Communication

Effective communication is crucial in a healthy relationship, so if you lack the ability to be open and honest about your feelings and needs with others, it will influence the nature of the relationship.

When it is difficult for you to communicate about your thoughts or needs – either because you do not have the confidence in either yourself or your relationship, then you are likely over time to become unhappy in the relationship. This could be avoided. It is another way that self esteem is connected to the health of your relationships.

A low self opinion makes it difficult to articulate what you need in order to be happy, to listen well to your partner, and to be assertive about your boundaries in a relationship. Your partner may be able to discern your needs adequately, but if not, it is likely that you will become dissatisfied.

Alternately, your low self esteem may cause you to defer to your partner’s opinions and needs. This is likely to make you resentful and angry toward them over time.

Self Esteem Influences Your Boundaries

How much you care about and value yourself affects what behaviors you are willing to accept from others. For example, you are more likely to put up with disrespectful, controlling, and even abusive behavior from a partner if you do not feel you are worthy of better treatment (or if this is the treatment you have experienced previously and consider to be normal).

Low self esteem may make it difficult for you to say no to your partner or may cause you to take things very personally unnecessarily, when in reality they may have nothing to do with you at all. If this occurs, you may have difficulty reconciling differences with your partner when you feel insecure about your own needs and choices.

It is possible that low self esteem may lead you to feel you are responsible for others’ feelings or needs. This can result in conflict or defensiveness from your partner.

Self Esteem Guides Autonomy

While each of us has a need to be connected to others it is equally important to be an individual and stand on our own. To be autonomous, you must have self esteem. And if you lack autonomy, your partner and relationship must shoulder a heavy burden for making you feel complete.

Without self-esteem, you will find it difficult to spend time alone or to honor your own values and needs. To be intimate with another person means you recognize their needs as well as your own and honor them equally. This awareness is more difficult when you suffer from low self esteem.

Final Thoughts

These are just some of the ways that your self esteem is connected to and plays a significant role in the health of your relationships. To overcome this, it is worth fostering a stronger sense of self, and building your confidence, to help not just for yourself, but also for those around you who care for you.

Without positive self esteem, you will have a challenging time communicating your needs to others, and this means it will be more difficult to connect on a deeper level. These are essential elements in being an equal partner to someone else, and that is critical to building a strong, lasting relationship.

“No-one can survive on their own. No-one.” Game of Thrones


10 of the Best Books About Body Language That You Need To Read

In this post, we look at the top 10 books about body language. When you pay attention to body language, you realize how important non-verbal communication is. Not just in your personal life, but also in business. We use body language all the time, with hand gestures, movements, and expressions.

By understanding everything that goes into body language, you can stop yourself giving off one of the thousands of negative signals that we give off unconsciously. Or you can use your knowledge to read people better. Either way, a better understanding of body language is extremely beneficial.

Related: 10 books every leader needs to read

10 books about body language

1. “What every BODY is Saying” by Joe Navarro and Marvin Karlins

An ex FBI agent wrote this book, so you know the contents have been tried and tested in real-life situations. The book talks about speed reading, how to quickly decode people’s behaviors and avoid pitfalls.

One great thing about the book is that it is well written and easy to understand. The concepts and ideas you learn in this book can be used immediately. Among others, these include: why the face is probably the least likely place to understand a person’s true intentions, the most powerful behaviors that show confidence and simple non-verbal cues that instantly establish trust and communicate authority.

2. “The Definitive Book of Body Language: The Hidden Meaning behind People’s Gestures and Expressions”

Another great book on body language, and an international bestseller. It gives you the knowledge required to control any face to face encounter. Whether you want to do really well in that job interview or give off a great first impression, there are techniques in this book you can implement today.

The authors, Barbara Pease and Allan Pease, specialize in the use of body language for politics and business purposes, and the book focuses on knowledge for business executives..

Another great thing about this book is that it has a lot of illustrations, that are helpful and funny at the same time. If you want an entertaining book that also teaches you how to utilize body language in business then this book would be perfect for you.

3. “You Can Read Anyone” by David J. Lieberman

This is a very practical book which outlines many different scenarios and techniques you can use. It helps you understand how through body language, you can tell if someone is lying to you, withholding information, or gauge their level of interest.

This book by David J. Lieberman is essential for employers or anyone that interacts with a lot of different people on a regular day-to-day basis. The author of this book is an expert in his field and seems to know what he’s talking about, which is of course important.

 

4. “Spy the Lie: Former CIA Officers Teach You How to Detect Deception”

This book ‘Spy the Lie’ teaches you how to detect deception, or how to ‘spot a lie’. Written by Philip Houston, Michael Floyd, and Susan Carnicero, who have years of experience of interviewing CIA assets, employees and ordinary people. They specialize in figuring out if someone is lying or not.

That skill can be helpful in a lot of situations such as finding out which potential employee is right for the job or figuring out which babysitter you want to hire. As with most things, you can’t be 100% sure that someone is lying, however by using the skills in this book you can be better than most people at detecting deception.

5. “The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over”

This book is written by Jack Schafer, (a former FBI special agent specializing in in behavioral analysis) and Marvin Karlins. They take a slightly different approach to teaching you about body language. They teach you the skills and techniques that you can utilize to make yourself more influential and to get people to like you. This is obviously a very important skill, not only in your personal life but also in business.

This book is highly recommended to anyone who wants to learn more about being better at social interactions and building meaningful relationships.

 

6. ‘Emotions Revealed, Second Edition: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life’

The author of this book attempts to explain the roots of our emotions and how they cascade on our face – fear, disgust, anger, happiness, and sadness. This then gives clear signals to anyone who is trained in identifying facial clues.

On completion of this book, you will have a tried system for recognizing faces, recognizing feelings and overall improving communication skills with people.

The book is very insightful as it has many references to evidence for the research shown.

7. “Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage”

There are many great things about this book, however, one negative is that the book is somewhat short. The book gives an insight on detecting people’s emotions and decoding what different emotions mean.

The author of the book, Paul Ekman is an expert on emotions and non-verbal communication and aims to give us an insight into his knowledge and experiences. This is, of course, backed up by research which I’m sure you can agree is essential.

As the title implies, the book focuses on decoding lies. This can be through observing “micro-expressions” or looking out for behavioral cues.

Overall a very useful book on body language.

8. “Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101: Your Guide to Reading People’s Nonverbal Behavior” by Vanessa Van Edwards

This book was written by Vanessa Van Edwards to accompany her Udemy course. It is an excellent book that gives great insight into body language. The information is concise and straight to the point, while at the same time entertaining. The chapters flow well together, the book is written in bullet form, which makes it easy to read but may make it slightly harder to retain since it does go through a lot of content quickly.

Overall I do recommend Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101, as it’s a great book that gives you a good introduction into the world of body language.

 

9. ‘Body Language Secrets: How to Read Minds by Reading Bodies” By Michael C. Anthony

Another very useful book on how to read and analyze people. This is very approachable and has been well reviewed,

The book covers common body language signals and explains what they usually mean. It’s uses are as much for selling yourself as well as picking up on what others are saying non-verbally. I found it very practical and easy to read.

 

 

 

10. “How to Analyze People: Analyze & Read People with Human Psychology, Body Language, and the 6 Human Needs” by Michael Draper

As the title suggests, the book aims to teach us how to analyze and read people with proven methods. It does this quite well. This book is another quick read, is very well referenced and gets straight to the point.

It goes into the importance of non-verbal communication and you really do begin to notice these things after reading this book.

Overall I do recommend this book, for a general understanding of body language, or even just to get you started.

 

 


Quotes About Loyalty And Betrayal

For every important relationship in life: friends, family, and so on, loyalty is essential. Loyalty and betrayal are the opposite ends of what you expect from the people in your life. The person should remain loyal even if its, not the easiest choice. Loyalty can be demanding and often requires a level of sacrifice.

However, if that person is worth it, then it shouldn’t be a problem. This can sometimes be hard to express in worlds so hopefully, this post should help you with that. Here are 14 of the best quotes about loyalty and betrayal.

Quotes about loyalty and betrayal

“I believe in loyalty above everything. It’s all or nothing with me.”
“Don’t tell me what they said about me. Tell me why they were so comfortable to say it around you.”
“I will cut people out of my life with no hesitation, no explanation, and no warning if they do phoney shit, or I feel they can’t be trusted. I’m getting too old to be hanging out with people who don’t understand the concept of loyalty.”
“Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you, feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would have never gave up on them.”
“In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”
“The only people I owe my loyalty to are those who never made me question theirs.”
“Those who don’t know the value of loyalty can never appreciate the cost of betrayal.”



“Respect is earned. Honesty is appreciated. Trust is gained. Loyalty is returned.”
“There comes a point in your life when you realize: Who matters, Who never did, Who won’t anymore, And who always will. And in the end you learn who is fake, who is true and who would risk it all for you.”
“Never push a loyal person to the point where they no longer care.”
“One of the worst feelings in the world is having to doubt something you thought was unquestionable.”
“Loyalty isn’t grey. It’s black and white. You’re either loyal completely, or not loyal at all. And people have to understand this. You can’t be loyal only when it serves you.”
“People will stab you in the back and then ask why you’re bleeding.”
“Stay real, stay loyal, or stay away from me.”