You may be killing it at work, but if you don’t have
successful relationships, you’re missing out on another side of life. The
people in your life, your partner, friends and family, as well as work colleagues
are an integral part of the framework of a successful life.
In this post we give a few tips that can help build better relationships with others and give you a more secure, rounded life.
We summarise them as being in four different categories:
- The Desire to Build Successful Relationships;
- Your Personal attitude;
- Interactions With Others; and
- The Scope of Your Circle of Friends and Family.
The Desire to Build Successful Relationships
As with most things in life – it all begins with desire. If
you want to build successful relationships – it’s not that hard, it does take a
little effort though. So the first thing is to be clear about what you want.
#1 – Set Relationship Goals
One thing that people who are successful in personal
relationships do is set goals. For instance, they might consider the
progression of a romantic relationship and consider whether it is going too
quickly or too slowly. They might also try to look one year ahead and decide
where they want to be, so they can steer the relationship in that direction.
#2 – Define What Success in Your Personal Life Means to You
Success in your personal life can mean different things to
different people. Define what it means to you. Does it mean that you become
closer and more open with your spouse? Once you define it, focus on achieving
#3 – Spend Time Reflecting on Your Personal Life
From time to time, reflect on your personal life. Consider
whether you are approach personal relationships and goals correctly; and
consider how you might improve your approach.
#4 – Commit Yourself to Improving Your Relationship with Your Spouse
Instead of seeing your spouse as a competitor, see him or
her as a partner in life. Think about how you can work together to achieve
better outcomes for both of you, rather than thinking about how you can get out
of whatever task he or she wishes you to do.
#5 – Observe Successful Relationships and Emulate Them
If you and your spouse have friends who have successful
friendships or romantic relationships, observe them and copy their approach.
Emulate the things that work well in the relationships—and yours may improve,
Your Personal Attitude
Building successful relationships requires a positive
attitude. People’s behaviours towards others reflect the way they are treated
themselves. If you wish to have positive relationships, a positive attitude
towards life and others will reap rewards.
#6 – Make an Effort to be Happy, No Matter What Challenges You Face
No matter what challenges you face at work, don’t bring them
home with you. Make an effort to be happy at home; and to spread that happiness
to your spouse and children.
#7 – Develop
a little self-doubt usually isn’t a bad thing, a lot of self-doubt can be
highly destructive. It can prevent you from accomplishing many things; and it
can prevent you from fully participating in relationships, as well as forming
#8 – Spend Time Relaxing
From time to time, you should relax with your spouse and family.
The successful know that hard work is important, but relaxation is equally
#9 – Attempt to Improve Your Mindset
Mindset is an important variable that we can all influence.
No matter whether it comes to personal relationships or business transactions,
improving our focus and our intensity can only have a positive effect.
#10 – Be Grateful to Your Spouse or Significant Other
From time to time, show your spouse the gratitude that he or
she deserves. Don’t hold back on praise or use it as a bargaining chip.
Instead, be open honest, and loving; and you will receive the same in return
#11 – Be a Good Listener in Relationships
In relationships, it is vital that you have someone who you
can vent to and with whom you can be completely honest. Additionally, it is
vital that you be that same person for your partner.
Interactions With Others
Aside from having a positive attitude, the way you manage
your relationships will have a big bearing on their success. Just as a plant in
the garden needs nutrients and water, successful relationships need constant
nurturing and management of the inevitable bad periods which occur from time to
#12 – Reconcile with Family Members
If your personal life is riddled with conflicts, then you
may want to take some time to step back and ask yourself what is going wrong.
Consider whether you could simply be the bigger person and reconcile these
conflicts with family members, rather than perpetuating them.
#13 – Never Go to Sleep without Resolving an Argument
If you’re in the middle of an argument, don’t just go to
sleep. Instead, resolve it. Be the bigger person if you must, but don’t allow a
fight to continue through the night and into the following day.
#14 – Dispose of Bad Habits in Your Personal Relationships
We all have bad habits in our personal relationships.
Perhaps we don’t listen very well. Or perhaps we are very quick to judge. Don’t
let these bad habits set the tone for every relationship you have. Instead,
extinguish these habits and improve your relationships.
#15 – Be Open-Minded and Accepting of Your Significant Other’s Needs
Just as you have needs, your significant other also has
needs. Try to be sensitive and thoughtful in responding to these needs, rather
than bargaining with your partner for the best deal you can get.
#16 – Practice Patience with Your Spouse and Children
At the end of the day, the people who will stick with you
forever are your spouse and children. Try to stay patient with them, to
understand them, and do whatever you can for them.
#17 – Try to be Empathetic and Caring in Your Interactions with Family
Instead of judging family members and complaining to them,
try to understand where they come from; and try to empathize with their
situations. Try hard to make their situations in life better; and they will do
the same for you.
The Scope of Your Relationships
It’s a bit more complicated than “the more the merrier” but there’s a fair element of truth in it. You don’t live in a single faceted world, and so your relationships cover a wide scope as well – family, work, hobbies and sports, friends and the like. The important people in your life accumulate over your life time, with varying degrees of importance and impact. To build a wider set of successful relationships, keep your close friends close, but don’t exclude the others.
#18 – Improve Your Existing Friendships
In addition to making new friends, you should also try to
improve your existing friendships. Get closer with good friends; and find ways
to grow your relationships with new friends.
#19 – Expand Your Horizons by Making New Friends
Making new friends can introduce you to thoughts that might
never have occurred to you previously. The successful know that having a mix of
different types of friends can broaden your horizons and improve the quality of
#20 – Strive for Healthiness and Transparency in Your Relationships
No matter whether it is a romantic relationship or a
friendship, strive for healthiness and transparency. Don’t hide information.
Don’t do anything to intentionally hurt your friend or partner. And, most of
all, try to be honest and forthcoming in all of your endeavours.
Summary of How to Have Successful Relationships
Success in life is more than money or power. The people you
share your life with are an essential element of your success and happiness. To
have successful relationships is to have a richer, more satisfying and fuller
life. We hope that these tips help you to build on the solid foundations you
already have. Friends and family count more than your most precious