3 Tips to Teach Your Child How to Read

By: ChildrenLearningReading.com 

Learning to read at a young age is important for the development of the child. It helps them develop a better understand of their surroundings, allows them to gather information from printed materials, and provides them with a wonderful source of entertainment when they read stories and rhymes. Children develop at different rates, and some children will develop reading skills quicker than other children; however, what’s important is that as the parent, you are keenly aware of your child’s maturity and reading level to provide them with appropriate books and activities to help them improve.

As parents, you are the most important teacher for your children. You will introduce your child to books and reading. Below we have some tips to help you teach your child to read.

Teach Your Child How to Read Tip #1

Teach your child alphabet letters and sounds at the same time. Studies have shown that children learn best when they are taught the letter names and letter sounds at the same time. In one study, 58 preschool children were randomly assigned to receive instructions in letter names and sounds, letter sound only, or numbers (control group). The results of this study are consistent with past research results in that it found children receiving letter name and sound instruction were most likely to learn the sounds of letters whose names included cues to their sounds. [1]

When teaching your child the letter sounds, have them slowly trace the letter, while saying the sound of the letter at the same time. For example, if you were teaching your child the letter “A”, you would say:

“The letter A makes the /A/ (ah) sound.”

Then have your child say the /A/ sound while tracing the letter with his or her index finger.

Teaching a Child How to Read Tip #2

When teaching your child to read, always emphasize with them that the proper reading order should be from left to right, and top to bottom. To adults, this may seem so basic that anyone should know it. However, our children are not born with the knowledge that printed text should be read from left to right and top to bottom, and this is why you’ll sometimes see children reading from right to left instead – because they were never explicitly taught to read from left to right. When teaching your child how to read, always emphasize this point with them.

Teach Your Child How to Read Tip #3

Teach final consonant blends first. Teaching words such “at” and “and” can lead your child directly to learning words that rhyme with these. For example, for “at”, you can have:

Lat
Pat
Mat
Cat
Sat
Bat
Spat
Chat

For “and”, you can have these rhyming words:

Sand
Band
Land
Hand
Stand
Bland
Brand
Grand
and so on…

You can start teaching blends once your child has learned the sounds of some consonants and short vowel sounds. You don’t need to wait until your child has mastered the sounds of all the letters before teaching blends.

Learning to read is a long process, but it doesn’t have to be a difficult process. Broken down into intuitive and logical steps, a child as young as two years old can learn to read, and older children can accomplish even more.

>> Click here to for a simple, step-by-step program that can help your child learn to read, and watch a video of a 2 year old child reading

Notes:

1. J Exp Child Psychol. 2010 Apr;105(4):324-44. Epub 2010 Jan 25.
Learning letter names and sounds: effects of instruction, letter type, and phonological processing skill.
Piasta SB, Wagner RK.
Preschool Language and Literacy Lab, The Ohio State University, Columbus, OH 43210, USA.


How to Have Successful Relationships

You may be killing it at work, but if you don’t have successful relationships, you’re missing out on another side of life. The people in your life, your partner, friends and family, as well as work colleagues are an integral part of the framework of a successful life.

In this post we give a few tips that can help build better relationships with others and give you a more secure, rounded life.

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We summarise them as being in four different categories:

  • The Desire to Build Successful Relationships;
  • Your Personal attitude;
  • Interactions With Others; and
  • The Scope of Your Circle of Friends and Family.

The Desire to Build Successful Relationships

As with most things in life – it all begins with desire. If you want to build successful relationships – it’s not that hard, it does take a little effort though. So the first thing is to be clear about what you want.

#1 – Set Relationship Goals

One thing that people who are successful in personal relationships do is set goals. For instance, they might consider the progression of a romantic relationship and consider whether it is going too quickly or too slowly. They might also try to look one year ahead and decide where they want to be, so they can steer the relationship in that direction.

#2 – Define What Success in Your Personal Life Means to You

Success in your personal life can mean different things to different people. Define what it means to you. Does it mean that you become closer and more open with your spouse? Once you define it, focus on achieving it.

#3 – Spend Time Reflecting on Your Personal Life

From time to time, reflect on your personal life. Consider whether you are approach personal relationships and goals correctly; and consider how you might improve your approach.

#4 – Commit Yourself to Improving Your Relationship with Your Spouse

Instead of seeing your spouse as a competitor, see him or her as a partner in life. Think about how you can work together to achieve better outcomes for both of you, rather than thinking about how you can get out of whatever task he or she wishes you to do.

#5 – Observe Successful Relationships and Emulate Them

If you and your spouse have friends who have successful friendships or romantic relationships, observe them and copy their approach. Emulate the things that work well in the relationships—and yours may improve, too.

Your Personal Attitude

Building successful relationships requires a positive attitude. People’s behaviours towards others reflect the way they are treated themselves. If you wish to have positive relationships, a positive attitude towards life and others will reap rewards.

#6 – Make an Effort to be Happy, No Matter What Challenges You Face

No matter what challenges you face at work, don’t bring them home with you. Make an effort to be happy at home; and to spread that happiness to your spouse and children.

#7 – Develop Self-Confidence

While a little self-doubt usually isn’t a bad thing, a lot of self-doubt can be highly destructive. It can prevent you from accomplishing many things; and it can prevent you from fully participating in relationships, as well as forming new relationships.

#8 – Spend Time Relaxing

From time to time, you should relax with your spouse and family. The successful know that hard work is important, but relaxation is equally important.

#9 – Attempt to Improve Your Mindset

Mindset is an important variable that we can all influence. No matter whether it comes to personal relationships or business transactions, improving our focus and our intensity can only have a positive effect.

#10 – Be Grateful to Your Spouse or Significant Other

From time to time, show your spouse the gratitude that he or she deserves. Don’t hold back on praise or use it as a bargaining chip. Instead, be open honest, and loving; and you will receive the same in return

#11 – Be a Good Listener in Relationships

In relationships, it is vital that you have someone who you can vent to and with whom you can be completely honest. Additionally, it is vital that you be that same person for your partner.

Interactions With Others

Aside from having a positive attitude, the way you manage your relationships will have a big bearing on their success. Just as a plant in the garden needs nutrients and water, successful relationships need constant nurturing and management of the inevitable bad periods which occur from time to time.

#12 – Reconcile with Family Members

If your personal life is riddled with conflicts, then you may want to take some time to step back and ask yourself what is going wrong. Consider whether you could simply be the bigger person and reconcile these conflicts with family members, rather than perpetuating them.

#13 – Never Go to Sleep without Resolving an Argument

If you’re in the middle of an argument, don’t just go to sleep. Instead, resolve it. Be the bigger person if you must, but don’t allow a fight to continue through the night and into the following day.

#14 – Dispose of Bad Habits in Your Personal Relationships

We all have bad habits in our personal relationships. Perhaps we don’t listen very well. Or perhaps we are very quick to judge. Don’t let these bad habits set the tone for every relationship you have. Instead, extinguish these habits and improve your relationships.

#15 – Be Open-Minded and Accepting of Your Significant Other’s Needs

Just as you have needs, your significant other also has needs. Try to be sensitive and thoughtful in responding to these needs, rather than bargaining with your partner for the best deal you can get.

#16 – Practice Patience with Your Spouse and Children

At the end of the day, the people who will stick with you forever are your spouse and children. Try to stay patient with them, to understand them, and do whatever you can for them.

#17 – Try to be Empathetic and Caring in Your Interactions with Family Members

Instead of judging family members and complaining to them, try to understand where they come from; and try to empathize with their situations. Try hard to make their situations in life better; and they will do the same for you.

The Scope of Your Relationships

It’s a bit more complicated than “the more the merrier” but there’s a fair element of truth in it. You don’t live in a single faceted world, and so your relationships cover a wide scope as well – family, work, hobbies and sports, friends and the like. The important people in your life accumulate over your life time, with varying degrees of importance and impact. To build a wider set of successful relationships, keep your close friends close, but don’t exclude the others.

#18 – Improve Your Existing Friendships

In addition to making new friends, you should also try to improve your existing friendships. Get closer with good friends; and find ways to grow your relationships with new friends.

#19 – Expand Your Horizons by Making New Friends

Making new friends can introduce you to thoughts that might never have occurred to you previously. The successful know that having a mix of different types of friends can broaden your horizons and improve the quality of your life.

#20 – Strive for Healthiness and Transparency in Your Relationships

No matter whether it is a romantic relationship or a friendship, strive for healthiness and transparency. Don’t hide information. Don’t do anything to intentionally hurt your friend or partner. And, most of all, try to be honest and forthcoming in all of your endeavours.

Summary of How to Have Successful Relationships

Success in life is more than money or power. The people you share your life with are an essential element of your success and happiness. To have successful relationships is to have a richer, more satisfying and fuller life. We hope that these tips help you to build on the solid foundations you already have. Friends and family count more than your most precious possessions.


The Connections Between Self Esteem and Relationships

The research on the connections between self esteem and relationships is quite extensive. Not only does your self esteem influence how you think about yourself, it also plays a role in your ability to receive and accept love from others. It influences how you treat others in your life, particularly romantic partners.

When you enter into a relationship with a low level of self esteem, you are more likely to become dissatisfied over time.  This means that your partner is also likely to become unhappier and the relationship will suffer.

Your self esteem is born from early life experiences and continues to develop over your life. If your early life was characterized by unhealthy relationships, then it is likely that you will have “inherited” a low level of self esteem. This may lead you to mistreat those around you (even if you don’t want to and don’t realize just how you do this). The impact of early abuse or neglect is not only limited to your own self esteem, but also on your thoughts about others and consequently, about loving relationships.

How we feel about ourselves influences how we interact with and connect with others – but how does this happen? As it turns out, it happens in many ways. Here are just a few of the significant connections between self esteem and a healthy relationship.

Self Esteem Influences Attachment

Your level of self esteem influences how you attach to others. For instance, low levels of self esteem (or confidence) typically creates a low level of trust in others. Depending on how and when these feelings originated, you may have either avoidance or anxiety issues that make it hard for you to connect with others.

At one end of this spectrum, this may cause you to distance yourself from others, ignore your partner, dismiss others’ feelings toward you, and even do things to hurt your partner. This stems from your belief that someone else could not possibly love you, so you should protect yourself from the inevitable hurt they will bestow upon you.

Alternatively, your low self esteem may make you extremely anxious about how others’ feel, causing you to be preoccupied with their behaviors. As a result you may become clingy or overly needy towards others because you are sure they will leave you at any moment.

Self Esteem Guides Communication

Effective communication is crucial in a healthy relationship, so if you lack the ability to be open and honest about your feelings and needs with others, it will influence the nature of the relationship.

When it is difficult for you to communicate about your thoughts or needs – either because you do not have the confidence in either yourself or your relationship, then you are likely over time to become unhappy in the relationship. This could be avoided. It is another way that self esteem is connected to the health of your relationships.

A low self opinion makes it difficult to articulate what you need in order to be happy, to listen well to your partner, and to be assertive about your boundaries in a relationship. Your partner may be able to discern your needs adequately, but if not, it is likely that you will become dissatisfied.

Alternately, your low self esteem may cause you to defer to your partner’s opinions and needs. This is likely to make you resentful and angry toward them over time.

Self Esteem Influences Your Boundaries

How much you care about and value yourself affects what behaviors you are willing to accept from others. For example, you are more likely to put up with disrespectful, controlling, and even abusive behavior from a partner if you do not feel you are worthy of better treatment (or if this is the treatment you have experienced previously and consider to be normal).

Low self esteem may make it difficult for you to say no to your partner or may cause you to take things very personally unnecessarily, when in reality they may have nothing to do with you at all. If this occurs, you may have difficulty reconciling differences with your partner when you feel insecure about your own needs and choices.

It is possible that low self esteem may lead you to feel you are responsible for others’ feelings or needs. This can result in conflict or defensiveness from your partner.

Self Esteem Guides Autonomy

While each of us has a need to be connected to others it is equally important to be an individual and stand on our own. To be autonomous, you must have self esteem. And if you lack autonomy, your partner and relationship must shoulder a heavy burden for making you feel complete.

Without self-esteem, you will find it difficult to spend time alone or to honor your own values and needs. To be intimate with another person means you recognize their needs as well as your own and honor them equally. This awareness is more difficult when you suffer from low self esteem.

Final Thoughts

These are just some of the ways that your self esteem is connected to and plays a significant role in the health of your relationships. To overcome this, it is worth fostering a stronger sense of self, and building your confidence, to help not just for yourself, but also for those around you who care for you.

Without positive self esteem, you will have a challenging time communicating your needs to others, and this means it will be more difficult to connect on a deeper level. These are essential elements in being an equal partner to someone else, and that is critical to building a strong, lasting relationship.

“No-one can survive on their own. No-one.” Game of Thrones