Revealed – How to Know What a Balanced Life is

The following story reveals what a balanced life is. It is a simple story that shows what the key aspects of life, and how we can balance our lives by being aware of priorities and perspective.

We can all learn from this simple story.

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A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.

The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

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‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children.

Spend time with your parents.

Visit with grandparents.

Take your spouse out to dinner.

There will always be time to clean the house, fix the disposal or deal with things from your job.

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Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented.

The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’

The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of beers with a friend.


How to Create Your Own Life by Being Aware of Who You Are

“The unexamined life is not worth living”

Socrates

We all want to be better. You want to create your own life. But we all have a different form of better. The life you want to live is different from the life that others want to live. Personal growth means different things to each of us. The common element of personal growth is that you must work on yourself.

The choices you make throughout your lifetime will determine the type of life you lead.  Your choices are reflective of the person you are, and who you will become.  It is possible to direct those choices to create a better life. Incredible rewards come to those who make the right choices and work on making changes.

To change as a person, you need to identify what changes you want.  Before you can aim at the finish, you need to know your starting point.  Your journey begins with self-examination.

It continues by accessing the personal power that exists within us all. This power gives you the discipline to enforce the changes you need to make to create your life the way you want it. This will define your relationships, sense of fulfillment, and general happiness.

“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”

Carl Jung

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Personal Awareness

The first step in your journey of personal growth is personal awareness. The more you know about yourself the better. Unfortunately, we don’t always look at ourselves in depth. We have a tendency to overlook our deficiencies. An honest appraisal provides the groundwork of change.

This stimulates ideas about what changes you see as part of your personal growth. What to build on and what to overcome.

A good place to start is with the things that you are good at. The things that make you shine as a person. List down the things you like about yourself. Include your best skills or talents.  Think also about your passions.

Then write down your weaknesses and the strengths you have as a person.

This gives a good picture of the person you are. To create your own life you need to know who you are now.

Thinking About the Life You Want

A good place to start thinking about the sorts of changes you want to make is to consider the regrets you have. Study them to see if you could have prevented them or acted in a different way. If there were other options you did not take, why did you act the way you did? Was it part of your inner programming? Is this changeable?

The next step is the see yourself as others do. How do other people describe you? Is that consistent with the way you see yourself? Is it consistent with the life you want?

Guiding Thoughts

Our perceptions and thoughts guide our actions. We all have insecurities and fears of differing levels. Being aware of them leads us to better choices. Think about your insecurities.

There are things in life that we have power over, and things that we do not. Think about the things you can and can’t control. Excessive worry over the things we cannot control is not productive. It wastes a lot of energy. Focus on the things you have control over.

Your values and motivations guide your reactions to events. Once again, an awareness of these gives you a better ability to create your own life, the way you want it. When thinking about this, dwell on the things that bring you joy, and the things that make you sad.

Your dreams and your goals in life point the way to the life you want. Think about what it is that stopping you from achieving these.

Self Esteem

If you don’t think you are good enough, chances are that you won’t be. You have to overcome this. Achievement comes in small steps. You are always good enough to make the next step. Positive self esteem is essential to personal growth.

You must care for yourself, spiritually, mentally, and physically. Think about how well you do this, and how you can be better at it.

Envy of others is common. But it implies a low sense of self worth. It is one thing to hold up another person as a role model to emulate. It is another thing to be jealous or feel that you are not as good.

Think about the things that frighten you. What do you get anxious about? What do you get frustrated by? Are there clues in this about the changes you would like to make to create a better life.

Relationships

You don’t live in a vacuum. The people in your life are critical to your quality of life. People with strong personal relationships live longer, happier lives.

Consider the strengths of your relationships. Who are the supportive, positive people in your life? And how do they make your life better? Consider also the negative influences in your life. Is there anything you can do about these people?

List the Changes You Want

Now that you have conducted a thorough inventory of your life, make a list of the changes you would like to make.

To stop this being overwhelming, make a list of the barriers you are likely to face in making these changes. Try to set some priorities. Remember that life is a journey. You need to have a destination in mind, but it is the journey itself that is most important.

Create small steps that are achievable, and build on these. To get from 1 to 100, the first step is to get to 2. Then you aim at 3 or 5.

As you go through these steps, celebrate your success along the way. This will reinforce your motivation for change. Following these suggestions will help you to create your own life. They will help you live life on your own terms. Live the life you want.


How to be Positive and Happy

If you want to know more about how to be positive and happy all the time – read on. Consider first what happy, successful people think about every day? It’s simple. They think positively about what they want and how they can get it. Positivity can change your life.

When you spend your time thinking and talking about what you want from life and how you can achieve it, you will feel happier and more in control. When you think about happy things, your brain releases endorphins, which give you a feeling of well-being. It doesn’t take long to develop a positive attitude.

The Importance of Optimism

Psychological tests have shown that happy people have a specific quality that enables them to live a better life. That quality, of course, is optimism. If you’re groaning at the thought of such positivity, because you worry that you can’t become an optimist, then stop right now. According to WebMD, optimism can be learned. It’s all about cause and effect. If you change your way of thinking and align it with optimists, you will start to feel happier and see results.

The Positive and Happy Find The Good In The World

There are two distinct ways that optimists deal with the world, which sets them apart from the rest:

  • First, they remain focused on what they want, looking for ways to achieve it. They set clear goals and remain confident they will achieve them.
  • Second, in every difficult situation an optimist will look for the good. When something goes wrong, they determine what lesson or knowledge can be drawn from the situation.

If you look for the good in someone or something then you will always find it, and in the looking, you will find yourself more cheerful.

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This book will help to show you how to be positive and happy.

The Power Of Positive Thinking 

Optimists seek the lesson in every obstacle. They don’t get upset and look at where they can lay blame. They control their emotions and look at things logically.

Positive thinking has several benefits to your life:

  • Motivation: Willpower and motivation come from a strong mind. Negative thoughts lead to negative actions. When you replace pessimism with optimism, you reshape your outlook.
  • Strong Relationships: Happiness attracts happiness, thus happy people attract people who are happy. If you surround yourself with negativity, you will only attract negativity. Positivity breeds trust, which builds strong relationships. Without trust, relationships cannot survive. We are hardwired to seek trust.
  • Confidence: Negativity spreads and can impact other attributes, such as self-esteem and confidence. The key to leading a happy life is loving yourself. Optimists laugh louder, love harder, and walk taller. They glow.
  • Strong Mind & Body: Negative thoughts are draining and can have a severe impact on your mental health. They can leave you struggling to get up in the morning and inhibit your ability to sleep. Fatigue leads to weakness, sadness, and a lack of motivation. Therefore, negativity takes a toll on your whole body.

Choose Happiness

You can make the choice today to see the glass as half full instead of half empty. Look at your blessings rather than noting every shortcoming. Look at the best in everyone around you, because in truth, the majority of people are honest and good. Look for the good in their actions and in their words, and resolve to be of good cheer.

It’s easy to be upbeat when everything in your life is going well. However, it’s even more important to do so when everything is going against you or is falling apart. You can still draw from your inner strength and look on the bright side of life, it will pay off in spades.

We hope that this article has helped to show you how to be positive and happy. The rewards are a richer, fuller and more successful life.


Optimism Will Improve Your Life

It sounds like common sense, but a positive attitude helps you sail through life a little easier. In fact, people who strive to look for the “silver lining” usually rise above their challenges with triumph and victory. We’ll give you a few tips to help you maintain that positive outlook and improve your life.

Research has shown that individuals who maintain a positive attitude during intense surgeries and after, usually have a shorter recovery period.

People who work in high stress environments find their inner peace and balance by focusing on the positives of their job, whilst meditation and reflection focussed on finding gratitude in your hardest struggles will help you through even the most paralyzing challenges.

While it’s easy to say, “Focus on the positive, and you’ll be happier” putting it into practice can be quite difficult, but it’s worth the effort. It may even seem insurmountable when you face certain challenges. However, trying to find the positive, in whatever you’re going through, will save you a lot of stress, and your life will improve as a result. You may even find a useful solution to the problem you’re facing.

Since remaining optimistic during tough times is challenging, here are a few tips and tricks that’ll reshape the way you think. Let’s go over five valuable tips that’ll help you maintain a positive attitude.

1. Remove Yourself From Toxic People

If you’re trying to elevate your mentality and remain positive, you have to remove yourself from negative people. It’s almost like trying to grow an orchid in a dry environment. It simply won’t flourish. When people drain you of your energy, constantly criticize or put you down, it’s time to let them go. Walking away from unhealthy relationships is the first step towards loving yourself and maintaining your optimistic outlook.

2. Practice Speaking Kind Words

It’s easy to get in the habit of negative communication. Whether it’s complaining about your morning commute or not getting enough praise on your job, you can find yourself complaining about everything. This negative attitude can transcend into every aspect of your life. If you don’t improve on that, you’ll soon find yourself having a negative disposition. Practice speaking kind words about yourself and what’s around you. The old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it” will definitely come in handy.

3. Learn to Love Yourself

Having a negative outlook stems from not being fully confident in yourself. In order to find the positive in your life, start with what’s amazing about yourself. Practice daily affirmations so you can remind yourself how awesome you are. Get in the habit of regular self-care and stick to it. This will help you change your outlook towards whatever situation presents itself.

4. Make Progressive Changes

When you find it hard to stay positive in your current situation, think about making changes to get out of it. If you dislike your job, don’t just complain, start making the effort necessary towards finding a new one. Feeling unhealthy?, start changing your diet, lifestyle, start exercising and so on so you can live your best life. Sometimes a little effort is all you need to change your current perspective. This is in turn will improve your life.

5. Give to Others

They say there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving. When you give of yourself to others, you’re no longer focusing on your own issues. You’re exposing yourself to those who are less fortunate and making their moment better. If you find yourself constantly in a negative space, volunteer at a homeless shelter. If it’s in your means, donate to a local animal charity. This will give you a broader perspective and help you develop an overall positive attitude.

Shifting your focus from negative to positive is not an overnight fix. If you want to improve your life, it takes a lot of self-improvement and effort to really see changes. Keep working towards changing your perspective and you’ll be on your way to living a happy life.

To help you stay more positive, we recommend you read Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman